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Jane Hiatt's avatar

I feel your pain. I am so sorry you have this struggle and that your husband has to share the suffering. Or maybe he gets to. Maybe his soul is stretching into a bigger and more beautiful form than he ever imagined possible. Maybe you are here giving him that soul gift? Who can know--but what if? Would it help you to have mercy for yourself?

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Kathy (Kate) Dana's avatar

It would have helped me if anyone reached out or stood by me,husband,parents,friends...anyone. In my experience, people quietly walk away.

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Jane Hiatt's avatar

Nobody should have to walk that path alone. I’m sorry that you did. Nobody chooses depression. It’s usually a complex stew of trauma and internal wiring/chemistry. And so lonely.

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Just me's avatar

This is my experience when I am in it. The guilt and shame. The promise to get things done the next day when I can’t get anything done. The pain of waking up with the heavy stifling dread of another day. We didn’t choose it. Sending my understanding 🧚‍♂️

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words that got away's avatar

sending the same. one day at a time :) and hopefully today is a good one.

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